Coping with your newborn, your guide from one mum to the next.

Are you currently expecting a baby, just had a baby even if it’s your 1st or 3rd, having a newborn is hard work in the early weeks so here is some information I have pulled from the web to support and advise you on coping with your newborn.

Coping with physical pains: 

It’s important to understand that your birth may not go as smoothly as you want and you may suffer from some of the following:

  • Stitches (Use a jug of warm water while urinating)
  • infection (Make sure you get antibiotics)
  • Piles (Do not strain, eat plenty of fiber or take some supplements or lactulose to loosen your stools, you can also get Anasol a piles cream to help)
  • After birth pains (In your back or womb)
  • Mastitis (Breastfeeding)
  • Engorgement (When your breasts fill with milk and are particularly sore)
  • Sleep deprivation.
  • C-Section (Do not overdo it because this can lead to having pain in your scar for years to come afterward)
  • Struggling to establish breastfeeding (Its not natural and both you and baby need to learn)
  • Premature baby.
  • Cot death or born sleeping.
  • Baby brain- Forgetfullness (Write everything down, no seriously lists will become your best friend!)

Having a support network: 

Having a good support network is vital for coping with a newborn baby, a newborn baby is extremely challenging as they depend on you for their every need, 24-7. This takes a toll on your health and relationship. So maybe having a close friend or relative over for the first week or 2 could help, especially if you have a c-section or your partner needs to go back to work. You can then work in shifts so you can get some good quality rest, as sleep deprivation can cause some severe issues to your health both mentally and physically. Don’t be surprised in your newborn changing their sleep pattern, this is common. If you can’t have someone to regularly come over, having a friend to talk to in person or online can help you because sometimes having a good chat and cry is all the therapy you need.

Tiredness: 

Evaluate what is important and what is not and if you are able to nap when your baby is sleeping if you are feeling particularly exhausted or can you just put a load in the washer and sit down for an hour and watch some TV to catch some rest. Try not to control your babies sleep, they need much more sleep than adults and they also sleep lighter, which means they can wake easier. Keeping a baby awake will cause them to become very tired and grouchy, they will be much fussier and this will be more stressful. Co-Sleeping could help your baby feel more relaxed especially in the first 3-4 months as this is like the fourth trimester. Rember safety first though, don’t let them under the covers, place them above your duvet with their own blanket on them, with a pillow by the side of them to stop them rolling off the bed, or wriggling down. Also, don’t sleep next to them if you drink or take drugs and get a babysitter. Unplug your phone and rest your eyes as you feed your baby, get a 10-15 minute rest. Eat well and walk, sounds simple but it’s harder to do but it will really improve your life in the long run.

If you are still feeling extremely weak and exhausted weeks after giving birth, check in with your health visitor as you maybe anemic or suffering from post natal depression and they should help get you the right support and treatment into getting better.

Balancing life: 

Firstly, assess what is the most important in your life! Do you need to dust? No, but you do need to do the dishes, the laundry and put the bins out. Can your friend or relative meet you in town on your good days so you can go out for a walk and coffee, or come to yours if you are having a bad day and have your baby for a couple of hours so you can have a nap. If you are really struggling, visit your local home-start and see what they can do to help you. Work on creating a routine, this will help you feel much more focused and in control when you know what you are doing and your baby will become much more settled as they love routines! It could take up to 6 weeks to establish a good routine.

Yep you know what I’m going to say, the eat well, exercise and try and sleep well because really, it does your mind and body good, we need these essential things. Also, don’t try and do too much, you’re not superwoman and try not to compare to the other mothers around you, they are on their own journey so just focus on yours and doing the best you can. Finding other mums will help, so visit your local baby groups and arrange and go to mummy meetups in your baby-friendly places in your town so you can talk, because staying at home all day can become very lonely and exhausting to some and chatting with like-minded mums can help ease any anxieties or questions you may have.

Don’t forget your “me time” even if that is just having a bubble bath or watching your favorite chick flick, because the demands of motherhood are so tough, trying to do it all perfectly will drive you mad! So if you need to go take a minute, ensure your baby is safe (Put them in their cot) and stand outside for 5 minutes to center yourself or call someone. You are not alone, so accept help when it’s offered to you and ask for it- There is absolutely no shame in it whatsoever. You were born to be real, not perfect.

  • Postpone draining events. Look after yourself.
  • Batch cook on your good days and freeze them for your bad days.
  • Keep your nappy bag packed, do it everytime you get back home.
  • Set attainable goals, sometimes getting a shower will be the best you can do.

Your relationship: 

Having a newborn baby is very tiring for a relationship as there is so much demand on bringing up your newborn as best as you can and juggling, work, and life. Tag teaming is really important so that you are both equally doing your bit, however, this does take a toll when you don;t have much time together, so once you have a good routine going you can schedule all important date nights. Don’t put these off or to the side, maintaining your relationship is hard work.

Accept help, it’s okay to struggle and it’s okay to ask, you are not meant to be perfect so if you are struggling with your partner or if he isn’t pulling his weight then have a good sit down and chat with him.

Baby care: 

So creating a parenting plan will help you, doing this you will need some time and resources so spend some time looking up information on the web or at your local library, having an educated knowledge of different parenting methods will hep you understand how you want to raise your baby and also basic care needs such as what to do when your baby has colic or a nappy rash. Be flexible because you may come across obstacles that will push you to your limits or won’t work for you, sometimes it really is down to trial and error. Keeping a baby diary or logging things onto an app on your phone will help you keep track of your medicines or when you have fed your baby or when they have slept, so you can best decide what to do next.

Embrace the chaos! 

Gosh, this is a long one this week, I hope that you find my blog useful so don’t forget to follow and share! 🙂

Love and light, Victoria.

 

 

 

Coping with Pregnancy, your guide from one mum to the next.

Whether this is your very first baby or even fifth, pregnancy is hard for some mothers, while others breeze through it others can be hospitalized. So I have dug deep throughout the internet and books to find the most relevant tips on coping with your pregnancy.

Exhaustion:

Particularly in the first trimester, tiredness is a huge problem pregnant women face due to the huge pressure of growing a baby, so if you feel like you need to take a nap and you can, do it! A happy and healthy mummy is a healthy and happy baby, so listen to your body and slow down if you need to! Can you ask family or friends to help out, hire a cleaner for an hour or 2 a week just to lighten the load a little? Go to bed earlier, sometimes little things can make a huge difference. Treat yourself, having a massage can really do the trick sometimes to reduce stress and help you relax a little.

Nausea: 

This is another one that gets most women, in fact, Nausea and sickness can hospitalize some pregnant women so it’s really important to try and keep hydrated. Eat small meals, frequently throughout the day to keep your blood sugar levels up and stay away from any harmful food that can cause bloating such as spicy foods and fast foods. Most women say ginger really helps them so a few ginger biscuits with your morning coffee can be a hit.  Making a diary of when you feel sick can help chart your good hours and you can plan your activities,  social and eat during that time. If you lose more that 5% of your body weight, then you must let your Midwife know. See if your partner can help tidy and reorganize the house to minimize odors that trigger you, if you have pets, you may need to clean them out more frequently as your smell will be heightened during your pregnancy. Avoid foods pate, soft cheeses, eggs, peanuts, and liver as these are particular foods that can cause harm during pregnancy. While you are out and about you can carry a little “Sick kit” with some wet wipes, tissues, hand sanitizer, nappy bags, boiled sweets and bottled water, for just in case you may need it as it;s better to be prepared than be caught out.

Sore breasts: 

Yet another lovely symptom of pregnancy is sore breasts, so when you’re in the house don;t wear your bra and buy a nice soft fabric bra that is not underwired or padded just for comfort.

Mood swings: 

Some women experience mood swings, some don’t like their partner touching them at all during this period in their life and this can cause a strain on the relationship. Sitting down with your partner and having a good one to one talk with them about all your feelings will help them try and understand the difficulties you are going through. If you feel like you have depression, then telling your midwife is really important so you can go through the right channels to receive appropriate treatment. It doesn’t make you a bad mother if you have a thunderstorm of crazy thoughts and emotions. Do try and keep your stress levels down, it really isn;t good for you mentally or physically.

Becoming single: 

Unfortunately, sometimes this can happen and what a scary time to be having a baby and having to cope on your own, from your first or if you have other children this is going to be a challenging time so it’s important that you reach out for support from the people you trust during this time. Gingerbread is an association that helps single parent families, so it maybe a good idea to meet up with other single mums and make a support network especially if you have limited family to help you. Try and keep as healthy as you can to combat the signs of stress, eat well though you may not have an appetite and exercise by walking, swimming or a pregnancy yoga class. Finding that balance is difficult, but in the long run it will help smooth things out.

Money or becoming homeless: 

Nothing worse to be held stranded, but sometimes unfortunate things help, here is where your local council can help you out. Find your local citizen’s advice to get some advice on what government and private associations is available and they maybe able to point you in the right direction to what benefits you are entitled to. Your Local Jobcentre you can apply for a crisis loan. Preparing for your birth will help you keep focused, aiming to do power walking for some exercise and see what anti- natal classes are available for you, this will help you meet other mums to be and give you lots of support. Visit your local home start for added support and see what groups are running at your local sure start community center. Evaluate your immediate needs, what you completely need to survive and work on them first, secondly work through your emotions.

Evaluate your immediate needs, what you completely need to survive and work on them first, secondly work through your emotions do you need extra support and an assessment to the mental health services, just to help you manage your emotions during this difficult time. there is no shame if you do; it’s much better to have a healthy mum and baby than a struggling mum, be safe! Talk about your feelings, don’t bottle them up because sooner or later you’ll explode and that could be messy! Lastly, educate yourself and create a support network to get you through this dark time, because “this too shall pass”

So that’s what I have for this week, I hope that you find it of some use, please do follow me and share with your friends and family if you find my blog interesting.

Love and light, Victoria.

Why should I choose you? Gainsborough portait photographer

I guess with photography, it’s a service and like most things, so people do like to “shop” around to see what’s the best in quality and price and such like. So why choose me, Victoria Louise Newman?

There are many things that can make a photographer stand out from the crowd and one of them most definitely is training. So what training have I done? In 2014, three years after opening my business and a couple of years after I graduated college, I sought independent training workshops through the UK and have been doing them ever since and it has been the best investment I have done for my business as it’s allowed me to define my style, improve my craft and business skills and overall make me a professional photographer.

So prior to doing this intensive independent photography training, I had done other tuition and learning which of course helped me, from working with children (Especially vital for specializing in working with children and having past training and work experience as well as being a mother myself, this really helps me connect with children and how to handle them, especially dealing with shy children and those with disabilities like Autism)

Here is a list of all training and workshops I have done:

Study and training prior to 2014:

2002/4- NNEB Childcare & Education (North Lindsey collage) 

2006- Young roots: Introduction into photography. 

2007- Art and design level 2: Introduction to Photoshop. 

2007/8- Foundation diploma in Fine art (Derby University) 

2010-  One to one training with Paul Wisher.

2010/12- Creative digital media (North Lindsey collage) 

Independent photography & business training 2014 onwards: 

2014- Marko Numan (Introduction to lightroom)
2014- Tracy Willis (Basic Newborn posing and safety)
2014- Chris Chambers (Wedding photography)
2014- Just pose (Advanced Newborn posing and safety)
2015- Zoe Richards (Business)
2015- Andrew Appleton (Basic studio lighting & Urban portraits)
2016- Lisa McCormick (Location children’s portraits)
2016- Gary Hill (Fine art Children’s portraits)
Continuous online training (Julia Kelleher)

So yes that’s quite a list! And I want to do some more training too! I’d like to use flash and some more business training! This training just allows me fast track my learning and skill and present my business with more profession and this is represented in my work as I have managed to actually win some awards with my photography!

So if you are looking for a photographer, especially a Newborn photographer or a wedding photographer which are such important moments that cannot be re-winded just check with them what training they have done?

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Why investing in children’s portraits are so important

There has been a study done by Tulane university during 1975 in America where by children were given Polaroid cameras and advised to take a photo of themselves a day with assigned poses, emotions and expressions for 5 weeks and were given scrapbooks to create from the images they had taken. The evidence collected by the team found that 37% of the children’s self esteem had risen during the project.

As parents we want to do the best for our children and raise healthy and happy children but we may not realize the huge powerful impact that having professional imagery of your children printed and how it can increase a child’s confidence and worth.

Having a good and updated family photograph hanging up on your wall in your family home will re-enforce your child’s vision of your family unit creating security and reminding they are a valued member of your family and where they belong.

Dr Krauss from Cleveland, Ohio, USA is a licenced physiologist and he created “Photo therapy and mental health” in 1988 which explains the foundation of  photography in therapy, he believes that children understand this on such a simple level, I am loved and important when you have a large portrait of them up in your home. He believes that their portraits should also be in their bedroom so it’s the last thing they see at night and first thing they wake up to, emphasizing the importance and value of themselves.

In today’s highly technology world, it has become popular to buy “digital files” from photographers, however the experts stress about the importance of buying good old fashioned framed prints and canvases that are ready to hang from the photographers and not USB or CD that is most likely put in a draw as the impact on devices is not half as strong in boosting your child emotional well being. Having photos on display thought the house is a constant daily reminder without the need of charging or turning on devices, it serves in teaching your child that they are the first in the pecking order and not technology.

There is so much simulation of the brain with sensory impact of holding a print within your hands says Craig Steinberg, a licenced physiologist in USA who works with young children in therapy, he says that the sensory impact just isn’t there when you are swiping a phone or tablet or clicking a mouse when looking at photos compared to the sensory impact of turning photos in a photo book or holding prints.

It is well discussed and used within the mental health flied through the world and the importance of having good professional family portraits, make sure you have them done at least every 2-5 years to keep the fresh and updated.

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Love and Light, Victoria.

Amelia, Jake, Macy, Lianne and Evans.

 

How to prepare for your family photoshoot

What we provided- Bumps, Babies and Beyond! 

Here is all the information you will need for your experience. 

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I provide more than just a “images/pictures” here at  Within this moment photography you will receive not only an experience but there shall be lots of fun in a relaxed home from home Gainsborough studio and a professional service. I supply high quality photographs and products from specially sourced professional labs with outstanding customer service that you will want to return to, like so many of my other clients. I provide both location outdoor and studio experiences in my Gainsborough home studio, a mobile service is available but taxi costs apply.

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I want you to all be yourselves so that your photographs represent you as a family and they are genuine. Let your children be children and most importantly have fun as a photoshoot experience shouldn’t be stressful! Children under school age will most likely want to explore the studio rather than sit down and also may have a meltdown, I have children myself so this is not new to me at all, I go with the flow and orientate my experiences around your children.

 

It’s okay not to always get smiling photographs, we don’t always walk around with smiles on our faces, I rather get genuine facial expressions rather than forced ones as it’s all about the natural beauty of your family. 

 

Please don’t surprise me with extra members of your family and discuss with me who is coming to the experience prior to your scheduled day because I only have a small studio so extra planning will be needed for extra bodies.

If your child has individual needs, please let me know so that I can plan for this. 

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Little Children can often be excitable and busy, so here is some tips how to prepare your children:

* Make sure they have had a good night sleep and they have had their nap prior to the shoot so they are not tired and will be in a cooperative mood.

* Bring snacks and a drink but nothing with E numbers in that will cause hyperactivity so we can have a nice smooth running session.

* Bring a couple of different outfits to change into, this will give diversity in the pictures and allow little breaks and change of sets.

* Have fun! Try not to stress too much, being relaxed will allow you to have more genuine and natural photos.

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What happens afterwards?

After your photography experience you will be invited back to my Gainsborough home studio for a viewing and ordering session, whereby I will reveal your lovingly hand crafted photographs via a slideshow with no hard sales techniques. It only takes a couple of days for me to retouch your photos so your ordering session will be done within the week. I only do in person sessions as I believe and feel the one to one communication is valuable in presenting you with your images and we can discuss in person any questions you may have. Prints and products and take up to 2-3 weeks to arrive and are payable via paypal, bacs or cash. Payment plans are available just ask me about them. All my photo shoots require you to read and confirm with my terms and conditions.

So I hope this helps you prepare for your photoshoot and you find it useful, love and light Victoria.

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Coping with bad weather on your location photoshoot #Lincolnshire portrait photographer

So we are in April and we have the oh so common April showers here in the UK, so if you have booked an outdoors photographic experience or are worries about your photoshoot, here are some great tips to help you stay prepared!

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  • Its its terrible and you totally don’t feel like it would work, call me and we will reschedule.
  • Bring colorful wheelies, umbrellas and rain coats and we can splash in the puddles for some fun photos!
  • Dress warm, the worst thing you want to do is feel cold, look at the colors outdoors and match your wardrobe! If its a summer day wear baby blue, greens and yellows, if its autumn wear oranges, reds and browns, its its winter wear whites and grey.
  • Bring towels to get dry and spare clothes to get changed for your trip home.
  • Look for shelter: Trees, parking garages and over hangs on buildings and structures.
  • Take a flask of your favorite warm beverage, just to keep toasty if you need a break or after your session.
  • Check the weather forecast before the shoot and choose the best time of the day if possible.
  • Get some and bring some anti frizz stuff for your hair, yeah we all know it goes crazy with a spot of rain.
  • Don’t panic, we live in the UK and a good photographer can make photographs creative and extra special.

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How to prepare for your maternity experience, Gainsborough portrait photographer

L E T ’ S C A P T U R E T H E M A G I C O F M O T H E R H O O D

Photographing mums to be, newborns and babies are my true passion, I adore photographing Mothers to be and precious newborns because there is nothing more beautiful in my eyes. Pregnancy is a time of excitement and a personal bond between you and your baby, and I understand that you wish to capture the anticipation of one of the most unforgettable moments of your life and thus is why I specialize in maternity photography. While maternity photography can seem intimidating to some women, as a parent myself I’m dedicated to capturing genuine smiles and making my expectant mothers feel at ease and look beautiful.

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About my experience and style:

I love to use natural and bold colours so that there isn’t anything too distracting from the beautiful mother to be, leaving the emphasis on the bump however with a hint of colour and the occasional prop to add creativity to your photographs producing a pure and simple portrait.

I like to keep sessions short to avoid feeling uncomfortable because being pregnant myself I know how exhausting and hard work it can be! If you would like to capture your pregnancy and your newborn I do a “Belly to baby” package. One experience whilst you are in your 3rd trimester and then a newborn experience when your baby is no older than 1 month old.

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Preparing for your experience:

Before your experience please insure you have done your nails nicely as these will be photographed as you place lovingly your hand on your bump and remove large jewelry so that the focus remains on your baby bump leaving only sentimental items on for a clean photograph. Please have a snack to keep you refreshed and full of energy but not too filling so that you feel uncomfortable/bloated for your experience. Put Moisturizer (coca butter) on one to two hours before your session, this will help minimize redness and dry skin and give your skin a nice fresh feeling.

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What to bring:

Do bring your ultra sound image with you as well as anything personal that you have for your baby such as a named plaque. My job as a photographer is to make you feel amazing and provide you with an experience you will never forget and producing memorable photographs and after you can just throw your jammies on and relax.

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What to wear:

* It’s advisable not to wear anything tight a few hours prior to your experience as you don’t want marks on your skin.

* Long white/Black skirts with a Boob tube.

* Plain colored maxi dress or/and a bold color pretty dress.

* Jeans preferably dark Blue without the bump adjustment with a Black/White boob tube or Black/White/Grey plain long sleeved T shirt.

* Matching Lingerie set.

* Black trousers and White/Black/Grey colored shirt/top.

* White/Black/Beige/Grey cardigan.

* Lace bandu in Black/ White/Grey/Beige.

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What to Expect at your session:

When you arrive after our introductions we can have a drink and a little friendly chat about what we are going to do during the experience, what ideas and what you have bought with you (As I know that as bump grows it’s difficult to find something that fits and is comfortable for you) Once we are all settled we will start our experience. If you are uncomfortable at any point, you must tell me. At the end of the experience I will show you the different products available for you to purchase at your viewing and ordering session which will be held a week after your photo experience, then you can have a think of what you’d like to give as gifts for friends and family and discuss which images you would like hanging up on the walls of your home from your experience and I will give you a price list to go home with to help guide you and then all you have to do is wait for the reveal of your photographs at my home studio a week later.

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What to expect After your experience:

After the experience I hand pick the photos that I feel represent you the best so that I can bring them to their full potential in my editing process. You will then have a stunning collection of images to view at your reveal and ordering session. I never give out unedited photographs or RAW files, I may not make a lot of adjustments on a photograph, but I like to tweak it to bring out the colour or remove some over exposed areas when people where white ect. I want your photographs to be perfect for you, I am an artist. I will make adjustments such as cropping, black and white conversions. If you would like bespoke retouching please contact me to discuss this, I do remove spots while I edit. Once your photos have been beautifully edited and are ready for the “viewing” I shall contact you for you to come over to my studio where I will reveal your photographs via a slide show and you can go through the decision process where you can choose what prints and products you would like to purchase, this will take around an hours’ time. Please bring money with you to pay for any additional items you would like. Prints and products can take up to 2-3 weeks to arrive and once they have arrived I will contact you again so that you can pick them up, which I am sure you will be very excited about! Please let me know who is coming to the viewing and try and arrange childcare for little ones so that you can have full focus on viewing your photographs.

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How much does it cost?

Includes a 30 minute photo session, 2 Outfit changes, 10 fully edited images to choose from at your in person reveal and ordering session one week after your experience. You will receive a 12 x 8” fine art print upon your order, A la Carte products are available or upgrade to receive 45 minutes, 3 outfit changes and 15 images on a USB drive with a printing licence plus 2 keyrings for £350.

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Payments:

The package fee is due at booking, which is non-refundable. This payment ensures that the day is booked just for you, I have arranged childcare and I am prepared for your experience accordingly. Payments can be made by Cash, direct bank transfer or PayPal, failure of deposit fee results in cancellation of your experience. Due to sickness or family emergency yes you may re-schedule ONCE and your fee covers this. You may re schedule in advance no less than 24 hours prior to your experience. For packages over a course of a year payments will be split throughout your experiences. Payment plans are available for additional products from your package.

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